Comments on: Open Adoption Bloggers Roundtable #8: Influences

By: spyderkl

spyderkl — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 20:10:53 +0000

But that’s a part of being an adoptive parent too – dealing with them as adults; supporting them if they choose to search for their first parents (or not), whether or not they decide to have children of their own, etc.

Thank you for your kind words! I love your writing as well; and I love how you stand up for the rights of Korean adoptees, how willing you and your husband have been to embrace your children’s heritage, and what you’re willing to share with the rest of us.

By: Margie

Margie — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 17:07:49 +0000

Gosh, thank you so much for the mention. Lately, with the kids both off to college, I feel like I know absolutely nothing about adoption, though. It’s really strange to be here looking back and wondering if I really did the best I could. I hope so, for the kids’ sakes.

I love your writing, thanks for being out here in blogland!!

By: spyderkl

spyderkl — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 12:50:33 +0000

Thank you – I love you.

(Yes, it’s from an old commercial that made me laugh like a hyena, but it fits here. Because it’s true.)

By: spyderkl

spyderkl — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 12:48:50 +0000

I’m really tempted to do a round on how the internet *hasn’t* helped–because that comparison stuff? Oh, yeah. But I think it might do more harm than good.

That such a tough call. But comparisons are tough to deal with too – nobody’s adoption, let alone an open adoption, is exactly the same, even though it can be good to see that other people are struggling or have lived through things.

By: barb

barb — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 12:00:40 +0000

tirade! i think that’s pretty fabulous.

and thanks for allowing me through the door. you’ve helped me in many ways, more than you’ll know.